What You Inherit from your Family History

Family history is more than just understanding our cultural heritage. It is from our ancestors, that we inherit our biological traits and we also inherit their unfulfilled needs hopes and dreams from their experiences. And I don’t mean just our parents. Even unfulfilled dreams from generations way before those we knew can be passed down to us.

When I was young, I inherited my father’s insecurities as well as his hopes and dreams to want to live a better life unconsciously. Only difference with him and me is that I achieved my dreams. He wanted to start a new life in the US. What he felt then was strongly ignited in me during my growing years and finally the impact of my home environment force me to embrace my independence into early adulthood.  And for many years after my parents were separated and divorced, I could not understand why I felt unsettled. For I felt like a failure for many years even though I knew I wasn’t.

The world regards failure as something attempted which resulted in an unsuccessful achievement. I see failure as a stepping stone leading you to a different path in life. It lures you into unknown territories to challenge you, to test you and to ensure you are sincere in wanting to live your chosen purpose. Isn’t that what creativity is all about? Believing in your truth enough to create your destiny. Truly I believe we are the author in our life story. And we have the energy of those that went before us to inspire us to move forward.

Mum and I

 

Learning from our Family History

When I was pregnant with my first child, I was asked specific questions relating to my family history with health. And I knew the sicknesses and history of my maternal heritage. But when it came to my paternal side, I had some challenges and realized I didn’t really know much about it. As every family story was hushed and a secret, I only knew what I had picked up through the grapevine in my growing years. And that was enough to make me realize there is more that we inherit that is attached to the past generations.

Family History: Ancestral Culture and Heritage

There is something in our history which we don’t realize, a piece of a puzzle that helps us move forward. It’s not just about the features or the health issues that you must know. Neither do you just inherit your family’s photo or video collections. But the stories of those who went before us are important because they make up the genetic code of our existence. This is why inheriting photos and videos are important because they show the existence of our ancestors, the stories of their struggles and successes, our family history. These are seeds embedded in our genes. And we inherit every microscopic details of our past generations that will somehow influence our life.

Why do you need to know these stories?

Because you carry the bloodline to pass down to your children.

When I was a young girl, my mum would open our family photo album and tell me stories of my grandparents, their personalities and characteristic that made them a unique individual. She also told me how they struggled to survive during the war. Then she made me aware that there will be times when I may feel the same struggle yet I must hold onto my faith to move on and know that this will pass. And that I should not dwell on it.

I’ve often wondered why she told me that. But now I realize how those genes are passed down through the generation and we must understand what it is .. in order to cope and heal from our past.

My grandmother went through the Japanese occupation in Singapore during World War II and survived. My grandfather was tortured and later died. These little stories of their experiences and the history that followed after had a great impact in my life.

Their survival meant the opportunity for me to be born but more importantly that I come from a line of survivors.

So when my mum faced the challenges of an abusive relationship .. yes we struggled but we did not give up. We went through the hardships and survived because I knew the energy of my grandmother lived within me.

What are your amazing family stories?

About Alison Laverty

Alison Laverty is a Singapore born Eurasian of Portuguese descent. Specialising in multimedia, Alison creates photo slideshows and video production for families and businesses. Her mission is to help people honour life by celebrating and recognising their achievements through photographic and video memories. Alison is currently writing her forthcoming book of memoirs "The Human Touch - A Story About Connections".